What guys don't understand is that we're not chess pieces. we're not meant to be played. #REALTALK #FACT #DatingAdvice
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  1. angelodusty

    You might see it as being played and that is because of the false idea that if a guy is interested in you, he wants to marry you and live forever together. That can’t be farther from the truth. We, the guys, see it more as trying to experience as much as we can before dying or settling down with one.

    September 17, 2015
    1. DatingSexRelationships

      There’s no need to play games to get to know someone. Period. If you want to date me ( just used in context) the date me, if you want to play games, then go date Milton Bradley!

      September 27, 2015
      1. angelodusty

        I guess it is a matter of context here. When I hear someone being played I think of someone lying to someone else for some type of gain as in financial, living, or transportation. I don’t equate “being played” with what most guys do; date for the sole purpose of sexual gain. That is the biggest difference between what girls think and guys think. Girls always thinking about being together forever and that the guys is interested in her because he wants her around for a lifetime. Then when they realize that some guys will put up with some girls just as long as there is a chance of sexual gain, they are broken hearted. To me, dating a girl until the sexual curiosity is satisfied is not playing the girl but normal dating.

        September 28, 2015
        1. DatingSexRelationships

          That’s a totally different context, “being played through someone lying, etc”
          And girls are not SEX objects, you are playing a woman if all you want to do is sleep with them and move on to the next. That’s not normal dating. Normal dating is getting to know someone slowly, bonding, connecting, have sexual relations because you love each other, and staying together. If you are dating someone its more than a one night stand.

          September 30, 2015
          1. angelodusty

            Again, is all on the perspective and the point of view. lol. And, girls to us, first impression, is sex objects. It is human nature. I am not seeing a vanilla flavor church lady with a Doctorate in Physics and get a hard-on for her.

            September 30, 2015
            1. DatingSexRelationships

              NO, it’s not human nature. That’s just an excuse you guys come up with to say that it’s okay to view women that way. SO I guess when you have a daughter, it will be OKAY for guys to do the EXACT same thing you are doing to women; looking at them as sex objects?

              October 01, 2015
            2. angelodusty

              LOL, off course, if I had a daughter I would not be happy that guys will look at her as a piece of ass but, I understand that’s the way it is and I can do nothing to change it.

              October 01, 2015
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  3. killingtime

    If a person was to base all of his knowledge of how the sexes act on what they read here, they would believe that it’s always the guys fault. That’s just not true. There are just as many asshole girls out there as there are guys. As for lying, well girls lie to themselves a heck of a lot more than guys lie to them. Oh & any failed relationship has 2 people at fault, not just one. Just something from the other side of the fence to think about.

    September 30, 2015
    1. angelodusty

      Bingo!

      September 30, 2015
    2. DatingSexRelationships

      There are women who are rude and obnoxious just as there are men who are the same way.
      And aren’t you stereotyping women by saying that they lie to themselves more than a guy lies to them? Guys lie. And science backs that up! Men tell three lies everyday or roughly 1,092 every year. By comparison women, on average told two fibs a day which works out to 728 lies a year.

      October 01, 2015
      1. killingtime

        I think nobody would say that men don’t lie because we’ve all seen it. The same is true for women. But I don’t believe that women are truthful to themselves & that’s what I was meaning. As for stereotyping, yes of course. Nothing is ever 100% & I usually say that (but maybe I didn’t this time). But I still think that men are much more honest with themselves than women are.

        October 01, 2015
        1. DatingSexRelationships

          Now, if you originally worded it that way, that sounds a lot better. And I will say this, I think WE ALL men and women lie to ourselves more than we lie to others. We’re human- but that doesn’t mean it’s okay to stereotype. It just means we all have feelings

          October 03, 2015
          1. killingtime

            Plainly put a guy sees a girl & his “dream” is her in bed with him. A girl on the other hand build a huge romance around just looking at him. How many times right here have we seen blogs about it. Both fall though & the guy says damn & just goes on. But the girl is in a deep depression because her “love” didn’t work out. I believe that women build up these big romances in their head (lying to themselves). Another example is that they lie to themselves about the guy or relationship being “wonderful” when it’s not. Yes, Like I said, I believe that females lie to themselves more than men lie to them. I stand by that statement.

            October 03, 2015
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  4. killingtime

    Bill Burr does a really good joke where he’s talking about what happens when his gf starts talking to him. He says he tried to listen but after a while he just zones out & then his neck gets rubbery like a newborn & starts to wobble around. I LOVE that description because that is exactly how I feel & I’ve got a feeling that a lot of guys feel the same way. It’s like females in general (not all of them of course) are seeing how long & how many words they can use without actually getting to the point or how descriptive they can be without a guy being able to figure out what the hell they are describing.
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    True story: I once asked my wife a very simple question that basically had a yes or no answer. She paused about 14 minutes into her reply which gave me a chance to ask “Is that yes or no?”. My God my life was passing before my eyes as I sat there trying to keep track of everything that she was saying. Any yes I was zoning out & yes I started getting the rubber neck thing.

    September 30, 2015
    1. DatingSexRelationships

      I hear you on that one. I have seen MANY women do that and it drives me crazy! Women just beat around the bush too much… just get to the point and move on from it. Women have this thing where they start to think about " If I say no… this will happen BUT if I say yes… this will happen…" and instead of just saying, “You know, let me think about that for a minute,” and pause Instead when they start talking gibberish they are actually processing the yes or no aloud. I don’t blame you for zoning out… I zone out when some women talk to me… and I am one too…. LOL

      October 01, 2015